Nice guys finish last...

I know we have all heard the phrase nice guys finish last. well I guess I can see why, but in reality nice guys are the bomb. I have the privilege of examining many different relationships in my life and all I can say is what is wrong with it all. There are many good guys with good girls so please don't insinuate that I am talking about your relationship, I really am being general. I want to give a cheer to the guy who is considered the nice guy the one who knows what the word chivalry means, the guy who actually cares about the girl he is with and not after a "quick fix". To those guys who still believe that being kind and polite to lady's and not being an absolute pig with every moment of the day. Guys get your head out of the gutter, yes you notice her beauty but respect it as well...
The nice guy tends to get stepped on which can be seen as a weakness and I know it is not a desirable quality cause no one likes to be pushed around. I have to say its not only a one way thing, people dont appreciate what they have until its gone, or they realize the important things in life and see that the one who fits all those qualities is the nice guy from high school or collage or the local coffee shop who they got to meet over time and talked to and ranted about bad relationships with. Guess what they stayed there with you didn't they, they listened, they tried to be there, but the second they seem like they want to consider a "future" its umm I see us as friends. boom the guy has been there and shown he has loved al along and what does he get for being a jerk or showy or the big shot... the friend zone... and when he or she shows interest outside of being friends its all over. sometimes that person stays around for a while maybe even years but who knows. There are hidden gems in everyone, its the value we put on these gems and how hard we are willing to seek them out instead of trying to force them into someone. So the friend and great guy is put off for the dangerous guy. Don't get me wrong, the dangerous guy has gems of his own. He is a type and we all seek different types but as in the nice guy there are some negatives as well.
The dangerous guy the one who they all want to tame. Guess what people don't change except for themselves so in order for you to change someone their perspective and ideal towards life and themselves has to change... and hey lets face it if you are willing to give him what he wants, someone else is too and when you try to use it to "help" him he will go and find that other person who is willing. The dangerous guy is more fun, and can be more spontaneous, which is all good but is it reliable, or honest toward a long term relationship. Maybe, maybe not. If you are looking at a relationship and you see things that oh only if he was more this or maybe if he would start doing that... then maybe he isn't the one you fantasized him to be. You should never have to change someone to be the perfect person, but you will find someone who is already perfect to you with their every great quality and their flaws as well, find someone who loves you for you, not who you could be or who they could be.
The whole point of what I wanted to say is why is it that when a good guy meets a dangerous guy, the dangerous guy ridicules the nice guy for being a chicken, and a lesser man. Many times I have seen the nice guy made fun of for wanting to treat people with a different level of respect and concern than others. Guess what nice guys don't like it, but being a nice guy they wont be a prick back. So please if you have got anything out of this let it be leave the nice guy alone let him be the kind of man he chooses and give him the respect he gives you. He is not a lesser man than you, and if you disagree then maybe you should figure out why you think your ideals are better than anyone else...I am tired of seeing good guys punished for being nice, its not a bad things to believe in things oh guess what its not dumb to believe in abstinence... so lay off of those who want to save it for marriage, its a personal choice don't tell others that they are making the wrong one. Rock out -Mitch